Popular rap artiste Solomon Oyeniyi, aka K-Solo who was previously
married and later divorced has found love the 2nd time in a very
humble woman who goes on her kneels to serve him food and apologies whenever
there is a misunderstanding. Him and his wife, Matop, talk about their marriage with
Punch, kindly read the interesting interview below.
Hmmmm….Humble Wife, Ladies kindly read and learn.
How did you meet you wife?
K-Solo: She was like a daughter to me before she became my wife. I
was watching over her before I finally proposed to her. We were friends and I
used to advise her about men then too. When we met, I had more female fans than
males. Most of the things that were written in the media were false stories,
but she has been a very good friend.
Was that before or after your
separation from your first marriage?
K-Solo: We were friends from a distance before I got separated. We
would chat and talk but never met for two years. I grew up in the midst of
women. When we eventually met, we did not spend up to 20 minutes with each
other. It was a feeling that grew to this extent.
How did it develop?
K-Solo: It got to a point where I knew I would know her personally.
I found that I wished I had somebody like her, with the experiences she had and
things she had in her head. But I could not tell her that I wanted her. But one
day, it just happened.
How did you feel when he proposed to
you?
Matop: I was surprised, happy and excited as well, although I was
expecting it.
You accepted the proposal without
thinking about it…
Matop: I did not have to think about it. We wanted each other.
Were there concerns about his
previous marriage?
Matop: Before I accepted to go out with him, I knew all that and I
accepted him that way. I could not have rejected him because of what had
already happened. Even if I did not accept his proposal, someone else would. I
do not see him in that light. That is his past and I am supposed to focus on
us.
Did your family oppose the marriage?
K-Solo: I had little opposition from my family because I already
had a bad press. They were skeptical if I could handle a woman. She was not in
Nigeria then, she is from Cameroon. We had that little opposition and I was no longer
interested. She kept encouraging me to move on. She actually changed me and
gave me the chance to love again, because I had a bitter experience. I could
not imagine a woman who would kneel down to give me food to eat and holding the
plate in her hands while I ate, turning around to hurt, harm me and claim to
have a child for me. I had already seen it all and did not know what else to
expect from a new woman. I was wondering what the new woman would do to please
me or make me feel that it could be better. It took God’s grace to change me
and the fact that we are actually meant to be. At the end, my family stood by
me and told me to do whatever makes me happy.
Matop: My family is open and they welcomed him warmly when I
introduced him to them. They got along well immediately and started referring
to him as a friend.
Now that you are married, does it
deprive you of your freedom?
K-Solo: It has given me more freedom. Then, I was scared of moving
out but not anymore. The good thing is that she understands the spirituality of
life and that there are forces that want this marriage to collapse. We do not
have issues and we correct each other. I always tell her that she represents a
very important part of my life, even more than my immediate family. She has stuck
to me against all odds.
Do you get jealous of his female
fans?
Matop: He is family-oriented when he is at home. I know most of
his female friends, so I do not have a problem there.
What do you do to get each other
angry?
K-Solo: She snores and I am difficult.
Matop: There is no perfect man. If you expect to meet one, then he
must be a lazy man who does nothing. He is not difficult, but I can say he is
disciplined.
How do you make up after a quarrel?
K-Solo: She does it in the traditional way. She goes down on her
knees and apologises.
Is she always the first to
apologise?
K-Solo: It depends on who is at fault. If she is wrong, she
identifies it on time and apologises. We try as much as possible not to make it
last long. Sometimes, I prolong the issue to make her know the depth of what
she has done. When the atmosphere for quarrels is about to come up, she does
all she can to subdue it and that makes me happy.
What pet name do you call each
other?
K-Solo: I call her Aya Oba which means the wife of a king.
Sometimes, I call her Alomo oko which means a clingy wife. She likes to
cling to me.
Matop: I call him Oba which means, My King, or Ademi meaning, My
Crown.
What do you love about her?
K-Solo: She is a good cook. I do not know what any other woman
outside can give me, which she does not have. I have tasted everything; I do
not see anything in a woman outside that would impress me. I see her like my
sibling and not a wife. Sometimes, I reprimand her or straighten her up. At other
times, I let her know that I want to be petted.
Matop: He is an artiste and producer outside, but I do not see him
that way at home. He is a different person from what he is outside. He does not
mix work with family time. He is the best man I could have ever wished for. He
is amazing and loving.
How would you describe the marriage?
K-Solo: It is the best. I am not moving somewhere else and this is
where I want to be. She makes me discover my new person every day.
Matop: It has been blissful, interesting and fun.
Do you operate a joint account?
K-Solo: Yes, we do. It was her idea because she likes business. She
believes that little drops of water make a mighty ocean. She makes me deposit
some money into the account every day.
How do you cope with being married
to someone who is not from your country?
Matop: I was born in Lagos State and I am cool with it. I do not
see anything wrong with it. I am a Nigerian by birth.
Does he partake in chores?
Matop: Yes, he does. In fact, he is a good cook and we compete
sometimes. He helps out with other chores when I am busy in the kitchen.
How do you spend time together?
Matop: We see movies together; we go to parties, attend comedy
shows and hang for a drink.
K-Solo: We gossip a lot.
What qualities do you share?
Matop: He is a man and I am a woman and we possess different
qualities. Sometimes, we have mutual feelings and think alike. We could have
the same thing running in our minds at the same time.
How should celebrity spouses handle
their husbands/wives?
Matop: They should get to understand the celebrities and not see
them as celebrities. Seeing them in that light could result in quarrels. I see
my husband as Solomon and not K-Solo.
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